I saw a quote floating around on Facebook last week. “I want a marriage as beautiful as my wedding.” Hmmm, I’ve being in the event industry for over 9 years. So you can imagine how much I love weddings. So when the time came to plan my own, I planned and planned and planned some more. And the day came and it was everything I had imagined and so much more. The photos still bring tears to my eyes. I didn’t have my blog when I got married so I’ve shared some pictures below (and a few more coming tomorrow). It was a nearly flawless day. Now I strive to have a marriage just as captivating.
Today we celebrate our two year anniversary and I can’t wrap my head around the idea that we’ve only been married two years. We’ve been together just over 3.5 years and we’ve done so much in that short time. We’ve lived in San Diego, moved to DC, got married, had a baby and now moved to Washington state ~ and there was so much going on in between all that. We’ve grown so close, I can’t see my life without him.
When we wrote our vows, Sweets put a ton of thought into it. I would make a suggestion of a vow and he’d would really think about it before he said yes. He wanted to make sure he wasn’t just up there spitting out things he would never apply. People make promises on their wedding days that are just impossible to keep like “I promise to always be kind and patient.” If we’re being honest, one small tiff and “kindness and patience” can disappear faster than cupcakes at a Weight Watchers meeting. So we added, “…to the best of my ability” to the end of some vows. For example, “I promise to always be kind and patient to the best of my ability.” If you think this is a cop out, hear me out. Ability is defined as the power to do or act (physically, mentally, legally, morally, financially). In most cases we have the power to do/be a better person. The ability to show love more. The ability to forgive more. The ability to stretch ourselves to be better people for each other in the unselfish agape kinda way. It’s more meaningful to us. First because it doesn’t set us up to fail – we can keep our vow. But more importantly because it challenges us to always do things better. We can’t slack off if we’re doing it to the best of our ability.
In these last few years, Sweets has taught me a lot about the kind of person I want to be. On top of being handsome, he’s smart, thoughtful and loving. He’s captivating. He’s my very best friend. As in any relationship, it’s not always perfect and it takes constant forgiveness and grace. But in the end the hard work pays off because I know my marriage is more beautiful than my wedding.
Thanks to Robert Paetz Photography for these pictures I will cherish forever!!
We decided to have our first moment privately by the Cabrillo Old Point Loma Lighthouse. It was so special to share these moments with each other.